2018 has been an awesome year, nonetheless. It’ll be too hard to type about one whole year in one small post. So because we have 12 months, I’ll choose the top 12 significant events that moved me this year.

1. I adopted a kitten. He drives me insane in the membrane. But he also made me realize children are not for me, any time soon!

2. I went on mini vacations. I want to travel more, and I was able to do so every few months. Thankful for that. Something about time away that just feels so good!( By the way tune in to my last post to hear about my epic birthday trip)

3. I became a personal trainer. I don’t always have the perfect trainer body, but when I put my mind to it.. listen just don’t mess with me in the gym! That’s all I’m saying. Anyways, I am so proud of myself. Working out is something I love to do! I’m happy I followed my heart and stuck this out, because for the first time I did this on my own. Of course with verbal support from my friends. But I’m excited to embark on a lifestyle where I can make money, doing something I love.

4. I got cheated on, and it was the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Okay, not cheated but it felt like it. My ex publicly humiliated me. I needed that though. It made me a much stronger woman. Not only that, the way I handled things showed me how much I have matured as a person. I can finally say nothing can disrupt my peace. Literally nothing. I have learned through this relationship above all love yourself! The goal this year was to conquer self love, and I have done so proudly. Don’t harden your heart, don’t become bitter. But know that not every L is a loss. When I started looking at things that didn’t work out as “what is this teaching me?”, rather than “why is this always happening to me?” I was able to deal with a lot of things in a positive light.

5. I have been going to church more and more. Something about Tuesday evenings at church just help me get through the week. Especially when the word touches your soul, it’s like God knows exactly what to say at the right time. The journey of letting God in has been an amazing one. An emotional one, but amazing.

6. I started this blog. At first it was focused on my relationship. But I don’t want every time I go through something negative to be the mora of this blog. There is so much love and light in my life I think for next year I’m going to switch it up. This blog is a great way just to be able to express myself freely. Sometimes things will come to me on the way to work, (like now) and begin to type away. I love that I can share my experiences, thoughts, wishes, hopes, dreams, etc. with you. Both good and bad. Hopefully you guys can relate, are inspired, or just get a good laugh.

7. I joined a podcast! That has been one of the highlights of my life. I have so much fun talking shit for fun! Plus my co-hosts are fucking amazing. So shout out to you guys! Tune in by the way @theweirdopodcast on Instagram!

8. My godson Trevon was born. I have never been more in love with a human being. So thank you to my best friend for giving me one of the greatest blessings ever. My god baby!

9. I hung out with my cousins a little more than usual this year. As I get older, I realize time with family is so important. Life literally kicks in and takes over. It deletes every plan you thought you had and places you in new environments, in front of new people, new problems etc. but one thing that never switches up is family. And I’m learning to appreciate that more and more. They are my rock.

10. I took my mental health way more serious. Every day there’s a new article about how someone has committed suicide, or died of a drug overdose, or is suffering with severe depression. I for one, am studying Human Services: Mental Health in school, so I am aware of the possible triggers. I decided to take a semester off because I was suffering from anxiety attacks. I would randomly breakdown and cry in stalls, hyperventilate out of nowhere. My thoughts would be racing. I felt like I wasn’t in control of myself anymore. I did go speak to an advisor at my school, and I felt that my best bet was to take a semester off and just relax. And I did. Your mental health is no joke. When getting into the habit of self love, self care or whatever you may refer to it as, do not leave your mental wellness out. We need to be more kind to ourselves. As a female in her 20’s living in the city that never sleeps, I sort of feel like there is no down time. I can’t function if I’m not doing anything. But that’s false. It is okay to slow down. It’s okay to say “no, not tonight. I’m staying in.” It’s okay to shut everything off and just focus on yourself. I encourage any and everyone to take more time to take care of YOU! You are your biggest investment. Be good to you. Don’t be afraid to seek help, or counseling. Create an environment that is rooted in love. Cut off toxic energy and negative people. Place yourself in a lifestyle that’s safe and good to you.

11. I have forgave those that hurt me, or betrayed me. I have put past hurt behind me. I mended a few broken bridges, and reached out to a few old friends or friends that I stopped speaking too. It felt good to be able to let go of those feelings. “I have decided to stick with love, hate is too heavy a burden to bear“- Martin Luther King. Jr

12. I finally quit my current job, took a pay cut & am now following my dreams at my new job. For once, it’s not about money. It’s about what makes me happy. It’s knowing I can get up everyday comfortably knowing I love what I do. Knowing I make a change in children’s lives everyday.

13. I started living unapologetically. Probably the best thing I’ve done yet. I am not living a life to please A, B, or C. My decisions are MY decisions. My hopes, dreams, aspirations, my fuck ups, stupid decisions, careless mistakes. These all belong to me. This is my journey, my life. I’m doing what makes me happy, and I’m doing it UNA(FUCKING)POLOGETICALLY. YURRRRR