So, I’m on my way home from work and I’m having a conversation with my friend about my issues with men. I would like to make a public service announcement: STOP MAKING DECISIONS FOR ME! There’s nothing that grinds my gears other than a man who puts me in a position I did not sign up for.

What do I mean?

I mean, all the times I was at a crossroads because I had no choice but to be there. How many of us woman, can honestly say that after dealing with a certain guy they don’t know how they got there? I used to think females were crazy for thinking like that, but in all honesty I get it.

Why can’t men tell you upfront, I am messing with 50 women so that YOU can decide if you want to be number 51? I can not express the fact that I’ll respect a man who keeps it 100 from jump.

I think men fear telling females that they just want to have sex. Well NEWS FLASH*** More woman are willing to just have sex! Imagine how easy it would be if we could just be honest and say hey I’m just looking to “fu**”.

It’s crazy, the other day this guy asked me what I was interested in, and I told him. He wasn’t looking for the same things that I was. And the fact that he told me upfront, like listen it ain’t me… I respected him so much more. It allowed me to understand that he doesn’t want anything serious, but if I want to be dumb I’m jumping into this KNOWING not to expect anything. I didn’t hum of course. But he created a space for me to decide whether or not I want to entertain him without feeling pressured, or being deceived.

I don’t think it’s fair how men will tell you what you want to hear to get your feelings involved, and then decide to do otherwise once YOU’RE WAY TOO INVOLVED. So here you are, heartbroken, a side chick, confused, lost…. all things hurt, shit sometimes even crazy. Yet, how did you get here?

Why as a woman, I can openly tell a man, hey listen I’m not looking for anything serious. Or I just got out of a relationship, so settling down right now is the furthest thing from my mind. I allow the man to make a decision to continue forth with being nothing too serious with me….. however MAN keeps deciding for me?

What happened to open lines of communication? We are made too look crazy way too often, and men keep getting off the hook…. sheeeesh.