This year (2022) has been a year. I probably mention this in a lot of my posts. But thats probably because it is true. Looking back as painfully quick as 2022 has flew by, I’ve learned so many things. My younger self could probably use a little advice.. so here are 10 things I’ve learned

1. Bad news first, but unfortunately we lose Grandma this year. We’re going through the motions, but we’re okay for the most part. With that being said love on grandma, both of your grandmas. Show and tell your family you love them a little more. You know how nonchalant you are, and even if its corny and awkward at first, just be a little more of a softy please, lol. You’re still struggling at 28 to be a little more affectionate, but at least we’re acknowledging it right? 🙂
2. YOU ARE WORTHY! You might’ve dated a few guys that made you feel less than. But you are worthy of love that goes beyond the galaxy. And eventually you find it. I’m speaking from existence btw. So have a little faith. Theres some breakups that might hurt, but the happiness on the other side of that is so worth it. Continue to set those boundaries, speak up a little more about what you want and be unapologetic about it. Don’t be afraid to walk away. Whatever feels heavy right now will feel lighter in time.
3. Don’t give up on yourself so easily. Remember a semester ago you took the entrance exam for nursing and failed by three points and just completely gave up altogether. If only you knew how far you came! You’re getting A’s and B’s in the hard ass sciences. You’re literally killing the game. It was always in you! Do not let these test scores define who you are smart girl. The potential is far much greater.
4. Always trust your intuition. If you feel it, it’s for a reason. Don’t feel pressured to party, to drink, to go anywhere. You are right where you need to be. There are so many moments in life where I should’ve trusted her, instead I ignored her and experienced regret. And we know regret is NO fun. Your intuition is your best friend. Trust her, and listen to her. When you’re confused confide in her.
5. Dare to take a public speaking class. Your biggest fear is speaking in front of large crowds. Well let me tell you, this has held you back from so many opportunities. You have a voice, that matters. Use it! Don’t let fear hold you back…. from anything.
6. Trust the process. Don’t be in a rush to have life all figured out. You’re a virgo, you’re a perfectionist and you have this step by step perfect list to how your life will pan out. Well girl, rip that list up right now! Life is not going to pan out the way you think. You will fall in and out of friendships, relationships, jobs, etc. Go with the flow, G-d has bigger and better. Every time you start to give u, he gives you a reason to keep going. And it gets better every time.
7. Stop caring about what other people think. Everybody has a story. No body is perfect, and since you know this… their opinion doesn’t matter. People are going to talk whether you do good or bad. Learning not to become so personally affected by what others think has been the best thing for my self and my mental health. I no longer feel the need to seek validation from others, and to be honest I don’t desire to be accepted either. I can not please anyone. All I can do is show up as my best self, and whoever is with me is with me. Whoever isn’t isn’t. That’s all.
8. Do not give up on blogging. Actually it’s deeper than this, do not give up on ANY of your dreams for ANYONE! Your real friends are gonna stay down and support you no matter what. A real man too. You let a few things go our of fear of keeping a relationship. People are gonna choose themselves before anyone and anything, you need to do the same.
9. Get your groceries from Aldi’s. Eventually you’ll move out but you won’t understand how much it is to take care of yourself until then. So when you do avoid key food, pathmark, etc. The prices there are insane. Also buy a damn stock in Target cause you just be handing your check right on over to them.
10. Learn to let things go! Nothing weighs you down more than the hate in your heart. Grudges are draining. If it will not matter in a few months, or years just let it go. You went to church one day and they spoke about forgiveness. You took notes because what was said resinated. So here they are to help you out:

“There is power in forgiveness, there is freedom that comes from letting go. It isn’t easy, but it is godly. Forgiving is not a feeling, it’s an act of the will. Just like loving. It’s not an emotion it’s an act of the will. You are willing to love them. There are things in their personality that made you decide to love them. Forgiveness is not excusing sin. Forgiveness is not letting the guilty party off the hook. It’s taking someone off your hook and putting them on God’s hook. Forgiveness is not being weak, but being strong enough to be Christ like. You hurt me, wounded me, took from me, did me wrong. Forgiveness is dismissing a debt or a demand that someone owes you something. Forgiveness is releasing resentment or your right to get even. Let it go. Forgiveness is not based on what’s fair. Forgiveness is not reconciliation. It takes two to reconcile.”