Welcome to the soft life hunny!

You know how people ask “How did you know they were the one?”

Up until now I did not have an answer. Sure I thought I was going to marry in previous relationships, however I never had an answer for how I knew. That has all changed. It was September of this year (2022), where I knew I found my future husband.

If you have not caught up on my last posts, I currently lost my job. Right before my birthday at that. After the year that I have been through I literally felt like my world was just spinning out of control and I had no control as it sped up. I am a returning college student, paying rent, paying bills, paying to just enjoy my life after paying for everything else, and trying to fund my small business. So as you can tell, now (or much rather then) was just not the perfect time for this bad news. All of that to say that I was very much in a funk and anxious about what I was going to do next and how I was going to contribute to the bills between my boyfriend and I. Anxiety was at an all time high.

As a virgo, you know I am a perfectionist and every day is a productive day. So you can imagine the effect this had on my mental health. The days to follow really hit me hard because without a 9-5, I felt that I was no longer productive in any aspect of my life. I started to think that I was less than because I wasn’t waking up and going to a job. Looking back, why did I let one position define who I was?

But anyways, back to how I knew I found my future husband. Throughout ALL of this not once did my boyfriend criticize me, blame me or make me feel less than, at any point. From the moment I lost the job, to the moment I needed his help navigating unemployment, and even in the moments I laid in bed and felt sad and anxious. This man has handled this whole ordeal with grace, with patience and with so much love. He’s never stopped buying me morning coffees, or funding my target runs. He immediately picked up OT, and has been holding down the household since. And still is, because I am enjoying this stay at home girlfriend life (and no, he has not forced me to get back to work, or hinted at it either).

He also took me out during my birthday WEEKEND! Okay, it was a 72 hour showered in love celebration. Not to mention the date nights every night the week following the Friday I lost my job. Since then, he has reminded me that I hustle in school and my small business, so I am not lazy, and there is no day that goes by where I am not productive. He’s reassured me that we have all been through something, and that I am not alone. He’s been patient with me, and actually told me to take a month off and just relax (relax, something I do not do well). My boyfriend REFUSED that I got a job that considered me working harder. If the hours were too long, the commute was too far, if it required that I’d be stressed out trying to factor in studying it was a NO for him. Talk about a soft life, lol!

At first I was like, a month?? What could I possibly do? But in this short time I have been able to study more, and actually workout without feeling like I had no time. I have created space to do more things for my wellbeing. I am listening to more podcasts, dancing in the mirror more, cooking more, and napping more! I am not quite all the way relaxed, but I am getting there.

I don’t think I have met a man who has loved me through my lows enough for the both of us. I am truly grateful that I have a provider and a protector. Both financially and emotionally. This year has been really hard for me. From losing relatives, to losing jobs, to losing bad habits, he has been through it all. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it. And it’s only showed me that through thick or thin, the situations change, but the love, the love remains the same. And that is how I knew……..

To my partner, thanks for being my best friend, and showing me that I am deserving always in all ways. Thanks for being my cheerleader even when I’m catching L’s. But most of all thanks for making me a stay at home girlfriend 🙂 ❤

All in all, when a man wants too, he will.