Okay, so everyone has a podcast and everyone has a voice.

The topic seems to be are woman submissive, or submissive women this, etc. etc.

First things first, lets define the act of submission. According to Merriam-Webster dictionary the definition is; a: the condition of being submissive, humble, or compliant, b: an act of submitting to the authority or control of another.

So relinquishing control to that of your partner. Big deal, right? So with great control, comes great responsibility. This is where social media gets a little funky with the unqualified relationship experts. Much like my post on cheating every relationship is different. So when we are talking about how woman should automatically submit to men, although I agree to some extent it doesn’t happen right away.

Now and days there are so many types of relationships. So again, I am speaking on my own experience. In a hetero relationship women submit to men who lead. Now what this man needs to do in order for you to submit, that depends on each very own relationship. For me personally to submit I need someone who is emotionally intelligent, handles business, takes it upon his self to learn MY love languages and loves me through them, isn’t afraid to put his foot down when it comes to me, respects me outside of a room, loves me OUT LOUD (this ain’t no sneaky link), and makes me feel like I am Beyonce in any room, every room, etc. You see how this can vary from every relationship right?? Right.

With that being said, once a female is getting the things she needs we AUTOMATICALLY submit. Is this my king kind of sh*t… like wowwwwwww. He went and got me flowers? Let me go make his favorite meal. I use the term happy wife, happy life. Because ultimately, if your girl is happy there is no LIMIT to what we will and will not do for a man we love, who loves us back. Not only loves us back, but who loves us in a healthy way. I mean come on…. have you experienced love from a happy black woman? Shoot it becomes a competition of who can give more? who is willing to love more. And by no means do I say just focus on catering to your girls happiness. No not at all.

Men need love too, if not more. We live in an era of give me’s. Women want to be given the world, and spoiled, And we sometimes lose sight of the fact that our men need to be spoiled too. Our dynamics need to be switched from what do I need, need, need, need to what can we do for each other, other, other, other? What are we doing to make each other happy? Am I receiving what I need in order to provide that or not?

So give these damn bias podcasts, unlicensed relationship counselors and unqualified social media experts a break. Talk to your person and figure out… “How we gonna out give the other today?”