Girllllllsssss (& guys),

Tell me? Am I the only one struggling? So I took a week off of the gym and had to fight feeling lazy. Forgot to drop off an order to the post office, and felt s bad for my customer. Didn’t do the laundry, and then felt guilty for just being. And it’s like GIRLLLLLL have some damn grace! Why are you always pitying for yourself?

I am sure I am not the only one feeling like so much to do, but so little time. And so I am just posting today to say it is okay. You are gracious to your peers, family, partner, children. Now it’s time to have that same energy with YOU!

I really wants us to challenge that “Soft Life” and let it start within ourselves. All over my social media I see us females posting about how we are entering our soft life, and that this is pretty much the type of relation we want to start to experience. A soft one, one full of love. Not hard with a side of lies, lies, lies, and more lies.

As the one writing this blog, I want to be the example and talk about how I’m going to show up for myself and give Ayana a “Soft Life”. So as of late I started writing in my prayer journal. Mind you, this journal has been sitting in my house for a year. But when I opened it, I saw last year I wrote for one of my prayers to be answered that “I get my license”. Yall, I got my license, and put when my prayer was answered in the respected column. I’m saying this because, my soft life includes getting closer to god, not losing faith, and manifesting the things that I not only want but DESERVE! Because I am deserving of it all. I might get confused, but I need to remind myself that I am deserving of all the good things.

The next thing is putting myself on a two drink limit, as well as limiting my drink options. A part of a soft life, is being good to your body. Starting with a healthy heart, and a healthy mind. I am a firm believer of “you are what you eat”. What you eat truly affects your mood, your skin, your mind, everything. As someone with severe anxiety, a night out compared to others has the worst effect on me. After a night out drinking leaves me feeling symptoms of depression, and bad anxiety during the hungover phase. Anything can trigger me and im just off for a week. So, now I only have two drinks on my nights out, and they rotate between these three options: Moscow Mule, Red Wine, Vodka Soda. Legit, thats it. And that is all.

Taking walks. I can not express how helpful it is to take a walk. I usually take a 45minute walk three times a week and it is the most therapeutic thing ever. I pop my AirPods in and play a podcast, or an audio book and I am in the zone. Luckily for me I live in an aesthetically pleasing neighborhood. I love walking pass the brownstones, prospect park, grand army plaza, and heading downtown passing the bars. This is probably top 5 of my favorite things to do.

Saying NO, and setting boundaries! If the word No was my man, then I’m sticking behind it. I am resting this year, I am saving this year, I am at peace this year. If I do not want to go, then no. If I do not want to buy, then no. And if I just do not want to, then NO NO, and NO!

So yeah, once you’re done reading this go and find a corner and figure out what you’ve been doing to contribute to your own soft life!