There was a moment in The Sex Lives of College Girls that completely took me out. In the final episode of Season 3, Bela comes out to her mother—right in the middle of her friend’s play. There’s no dramatic pause, no hesitation. Just a simple, instinctual squeeze of the hand from her mother, full of love and unwavering support. That moment hit me in a way I wasn’t expecting.

Lately, I’ve been thinking more and more about what kind of mother I want to be. The world is different now—especially when it comes to gender, identity, and sexuality. It’s not just about raising kids anymore; it’s about making sure they feel seen, heard, and safe in a world that often tries to put them in a box.

That scene made me reflect on my own mother and the kind of environment she created for me. A home where I felt safe to be myself, where I never questioned whether I was loved. That’s the kind of foundation I want to build for my own children one day. I don’t want them to feel like they have to brace themselves before telling me something important. I want them to know—deep in their bones—that no matter what, I am in their corner.

Bela’s mom didn’t need a grand speech or time to process. She just responded with love. And that’s exactly the kind of mother I hope to be.