Welcome back to In Session with @ayanab_, where we explore the deeper layers of relationships through what we see on reality TV.

This one feels a little heavier.

Because sometimes it is not about conflict in a moment. It is about what happens when you no longer fit in the spaces that once felt like home.

Let’s talk about Quad Webb from Married to Medicine.

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Quad and the Pain of Not Belonging Anymore

Quad’s journey has been one of the most layered on the show.

We have seen her evolve, elevate, and step into new versions of herself.

But at the same time, we have also seen her experience distance, tension, and disconnection from the group that she was once deeply connected to.

And it brings up a real question:

What happens when growth changes your relationships?

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🧠 Who She Is On the Surface

Quad presents as:
Confident
Expressive
Charismatic
Evolving
Self assured

She has a strong presence and a clear sense of self.

But that sense of self has not stayed the same.

And that shift matters.

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🔍 What I Notice

Watching her over time, there are a few patterns that stand out:

There is a shift in how she relates to the group
Moments of feeling excluded or misunderstood
Tension in long term friendships
A push and pull between connection and independence

It often feels like she is not fully aligned with the group anymore, but also not fully disconnected.

And that in between space can be the hardest place to be.

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🧠 Therapist Take

From an MFT perspective, this brings up themes of identity and belonging.

As people grow, their needs, values, and sense of self can change.

And when that happens, relationships are forced to either grow with you or create distance.

Friendship rupture can happen when:
One person evolves and the dynamic no longer fits
Unspoken expectations are no longer being met
There is a mismatch in emotional investment
People begin to see each other differently

And what makes it harder is that history is still there.

So you are not just grieving the relationship.

You are grieving what it used to be.

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💭 What Might Be Underneath

For Quad, this dynamic can feel layered.

Growth can bring confidence, but it can also bring isolation.

There may be:
A desire to be understood in her current version
Hurt from feeling unsupported or excluded
Difficulty trusting the group with her vulnerability
A need to protect her identity as she evolves

And sometimes when people feel like they no longer belong, they either withdraw or show up differently.

Either way, the connection shifts.

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❤️ Real Life Reflection

A lot of people experience this, even outside of friend groups on TV.

You grow.
You change.
You see life differently.

And suddenly, the spaces that once felt natural start to feel uncomfortable.

So here is the question:

Are you holding onto relationships out of history, or out of alignment?

Because not every relationship is meant to grow with you.

And that does not make you wrong.
It does not make them wrong either.

It just means something has changed.

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📝 Journal With Me

Have I outgrown any relationships in my life?

What feels different now compared to before?

Am I staying connected out of comfort, history, or genuine alignment?

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✨ Final Thoughts from @ayanab_

Quad reminds me that growth is beautiful, but it is not always easy.

Sometimes becoming a new version of yourself means facing the loss of where you used to belong.

And that can feel lonely.

But there is also space there.

Space to build new connections.
Space to be fully seen.
Space to belong without shrinking.

And that kind of belonging is worth everything.